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vicki's avatar

I also wrestle with cast-in-stone physical body realities and could share too many sad stories if I were to answer "how are you?" honestly. So I try really hard not to since for me it almost never feels very good after telling because people simply don't know how to respond and while people's empathy or sympathy initially felt supportive at first it's soon just seemed to weigh me down even more. I have a wonderful sister who listens when I do need to say something out loud about it all. She was the one who taught me the principal of we go in the direction of our most dominant thoughts. Unable to engage physically in the things that used to bring me so much joy has been really painful but then a couple of years ago the idea of creating and sending original cards i make - with funny and or simply thoughtful bits of text - not only delights me in the process of making them and gives me a wonderful goal every month - some of the people who get them tell me how much they love them and the difference it makes in their days. Spending hours coming up with a new card and then making them addressing them and picking out stamps to put on the envelopes feels like a window to the light in the universe. So I've tried to make those cards become my daily most dominant thought.

And... Unlike most people I encounter i love winter, too.

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Molly's avatar

Thank you for this very salutary reminder not to only see the negatives in life. We should be more like your garden…. Even when we feel a bit rough on the outside…. If we keep replenishing our minds with good thoughts eventually the sun will shine through

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